“Comparison is the Thief of Joy” Franklin Roosevelt
You probably won’t hear me say that I’m “livin’ the life” unless that statement is dripping with sarcasm. While many I know are exactly where they want to be in life, or maybe even doing better than they had hoped, I am fully immersed in a very, very messy and chaotic life. If it’s quiet in my house then the family is either sick or sleeping. Otherwise we have total chaos, kids screaming & fighting, dogs running around, dishes falling out of the sink, laundry piled up and dog hair flying. Is this where I expected to be at this point in my life? I can’t even say. I don’t think I had a “master plan” like some. I know that I didn’t anticipate still being a resident of Illinois. I know that I never looked at my future self and saw a “family picture” oozing with lovely, well behaved little ones. To be honest, I’ve always felt like I was living on borrowed time so never thought much about life beyond the here and now. And I still don’t.
While some sit around and boast about their professional accomplishments, brimming bank accounts and growing 401Ks, I just wonder how I’m going to get thru today. I wonder who’s going to do the work piled on my desk if I get hit by a bus on the way home. I wonder if traffic will be bad
again as I try to get home in time to pick up Aby from practice. I wonder if Michael is terrorizing the staff and students at daycare. I wonder if I’ll be able to squeeze in my speed work before dinner. I wonder what the hell we are having for dinner and dream that someone will cook it for me. When to do laundry? When will I grocery shop? I hope the dog didn’t pee on the floor again today. Gosh, it’s time to pay the bills, don’t forget!
That’s what I think about. Not retirement. Not grandchildren. Not my bank account
or lack thereof. Certainly not the fact that Aby will be driving a car in 4 short years. I think about today. The here and now. I try to be thankful for what I have: a family that usually loves me, a job, a house, a little ambition to be healthy and fit, a normal, messy and chaotic life. I don’t have time to be looking to see what the neighbors are doing because that will be the exact instant the Michael is FINALLY able to climb all the way to the top of the fridge and jump. The here and now. That’s my life. I don’t compare. I don’t wonder why or why not. I don’t think about what if or maybe. I just focus on now. Living in the moment. Being grateful for the little things. Making it happen if it’s possible. Letting it slide if it’s not. The here and the now. That’s the life I live. That’s the life I love.
So take a moment to think about the gifts in your life. Acknowledge that you may not be in charge of the master plan so just sit back and enjoy the ride, even if it is a little bumpy along the way.
** Live YOUR Life ** Amanda – TooTallFritz **
I love this post and your outlook. I was composing a post in my head the other day about how I am not where I thought I would be. LOL You are an amazing woman and inspiration!
A lot of ladies I know, you included, seem to have lots of professional accomplishments racked up. Not me. Sometimes I feel guilty, like I should do more. Then I remember, “No, I’m right where I’m supposed to be”.
I absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE this post!!!!!! Makes me put everything back into perspective! Thanks for the great post.
Not comparing myself to others is one of my goals this year. As women, I think this is something that we do that definitely self sabotages how great week feel about our lives. And, I’m pretty sure we all have blessings to be proud of and to be grateful for.
Interesting…. I totally agree with loving where you are, but I’m also all about knowing where i want to be and making steps each day to reach that goal.
I say that thinking to msyelf you are a woman always accomplishing new things which has to come from also having an idea of better than today in mind…no?
Love this one 🙂 You nailed it! That is all!!!!
“I don’t have time to be looking to see what the neighbors are doing because that will be the exact instant the Michael is FINALLY able to climb all the way to the top of the fridge and jump.” That made me chuckle!
I never really had one single master plan for my life, but a lot of different ideas about what I’d like to do. Right now it’s weird because I feel like ALL of my friends are pregnant, and is there something wrong with me for questioning if I (we) want kids, ever. But, as you illustrate, we each just have to appreciate what we have right now. Which I try to do, every day.
I can certainly see that being an issue but things are good (and fun) for you right now! Definitely enjoy your new found freedom. Plenty of time for kids and then it’s a lot harder to do the fun stuff. At least if you decide to go that path later you’ll know you really enjoyed some time by yourselves and with friends first. No worries, you’ll know when the time is right (if it ever is). Kinda hits you like a ton of bricks and you can’t think of ANYTHING else. Hugs!
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