I wanted to touch base with all of you today and talk about a few things. So many of my blogger friends, run friends & Facebook friends are just killing it right now. I mean KILLING IT. Running killer times. Lifting heavy weights. Qualifying for Boston. Conquering new and
horrific challenging distances. And I’m proud of them. They worked hard and they deserve everything that comes to them and more. But there is a whole group of us, myself included, who are also working hard but it doesn’t look quite as great on paper. That’s because we are a Work In Progress. And let’s be honest, some of us will forever and always be just that …… a Work In Progress.
Social Media can be as great as it is horrible. There is so much to motivate us and even more to tear us down. Let’s build our network accordingly. Keep the motivators, get rid of those who spew negativity toward us and others. Focus on what we can control. Identify our weaknesses. Be positive. Know that things don’t change over night. Fitness, life, parenting and work can be hard and getting where we want to go can be a painfully slow process.
In real life, there are road blocks. U-Turns. Detours. And people who want to tear us down, possibly because they are miserable and too afraid to chase their own dreams. They see us “going for it” and call us selfish, bad mothers, single-minded and/or obsessed. Well, they are right, I am obsessed. I’m obsessed with my own personal wellbeing. Obsessed with wanting to be the best person I can be today, tomorrow and well into the future. But I still have to take the detour like everyone else. Life is hard. It’s how we chose to react and handle what is thrown our way that defines us as people.
Don’t let the fear stop you from chasing down what you want. Don’t let the excuses build a wall around you. Don’t let stress be an enabler. Think for a minute. What’s the plan?
- What can I control? ANS (for me): Only my actions and reactions.
- What is my weakness? ANS: I’m a stress eater and let my emotions enable binge eating.
- Be positive – I always get in my workouts, even when everything else is falling apart.
- Know that things don’t change over night – I’ll keep chipping away at fitness even when it seems like my goals are hopeless. I’ve created mini goals to keep things focused and manageable.
Over the last 18 months, I’ve been in a period of constant change, chaos and struggle. I look back at the “easy days” longingly and wish that just a fraction of the easiness would return to our lives. I know that it will. I have faith that better times are ahead but for now, I’m focusing on what I can control. I’m doing pretty well with my food, except for the bags of mini health bars that hubby keeps bringing home for me. Unfortunately, today I told him not to bring them home anymore because they are the TTF kryptonite. More salads, fresh veggies, spaghetti squash dinners. Less Heath Bar candy.
More StairMaster and Strength Training, less mindless running. I can barely move my 35# kettlebell at this point and that makes me sad.
And most of all, no matter what, I refuse to give up. Even if I never get back to where I “once was”, I’ll keep working toward new goals. Pursing new things with dogged determination because I know that for me, fitness is about more than the size of my jeans and more about the state of my mind.
I’m a Work In Progress and I’ll never give up ** Amanda – TooTallFritz **