You have all probably seen the commercial with the weimaraner holding a tennis ball looking sadly at a depressed man. Then the sound bite, “depression hurts everyone”. If you know weimaraners, then you will
love them even when they are pissing on your dining room carpet know that they are always one of three things: Ready, Depressed/Bored/Waiting for YOU to be READY, or Sleeping.
So whenever somebody is depressed, that commercial pops into my head. Like a Weimaraner, I feel like I’m waiting for them to come out of their depression. Like I need to take my ball and roll it between their feet and encourage them to get out the door to play. But reality is that people who are depressed don’t want to play. They don’t want run. They don’t want to take the chance of feeling anything. So you, like me, must wait. Be there for them and wait it out. It may take a long time.
You may need to play by yourself for a while.
Just be patient. Understand this is a medical problem. Some people will snap out of it as the seasons change, others will require medical assistance. Read more on depression HERE or HERE.
Although, you can’t help them medically, you can encourage them to get out the door to hit the gym with you, take a yoga class or go for a run. You know how you always feel
amazing happy when you finish a run? Well, that is because the brain releases endorphins or chemicals, serotonin and norepinephrine, during the run to elevate your mood! These same chemicals also helps fight depression. Here is an excerpt below on how exercise can help depression. Full article from the Mayo Clinic HERE.
How does exercise help depression and anxiety?
Exercise probably helps ease depression in a number of ways, which may include:
- Releasing feel-good brain chemicals that may ease depression (neurotransmitters and endorphins)
- Reducing immune system chemicals that can worsen depression
- Increasing body temperature, which may have calming effects
Exercise has many psychological and emotional benefits too. It can help you:
- Gain confidence. Meeting exercise goals or challenges, even small ones, can boost your self-confidence. Getting in shape can also make you feel better about your appearance.
- Take your mind off worries. Exercise is a distraction that can get you away from the cycle of negative thoughts that feed anxiety and depression.
- Get more social interaction. Exercise may give you the chance to meet or socialize with others. Just exchanging a friendly smile or greeting as you walk around your neighborhood can help your mood.
- Cope in a healthy way. Doing something positive to manage anxiety or depression is a healthy coping strategy. Trying to feel better by drinking alcohol, dwelling on how badly you feel, or hoping anxiety or depression will go away on its own can lead to worsening symptoms.
So while “we” can’t do much to ease the depression of our loved ones, we can let them know that we love them, no matter what, and encourage them to get out the door to get a breath of fresh air and hopefully a few miles on a beautiful trail to boost those endorphins.
Never give up. Keep trying. You may not be successful today but possibly next week or next month. They are worth the extra effort it takes to
haul their ass out the door boost their mood. You will feel better too because it’s true, depression hurts and affects everyone. So go, drag a friend or family member out for a run or walk! Reintroduce them to your “happy pill”. 🙂
**Boost Those Endorphins ** Amanda – TooTallFritz ** email@example.com
This is a really good source of information you are putting forth for us, thank you!!!
Thanks for helping to raise awareness. Many people still don’t understand depression, its causes, or the fact that it can lead to/contribute to many other illnesses. I’ve struggled with depression since I was very young. Of all the medical conditions I have (acid reflux, bad foot, etc.), it’s the one I’ve never been able to “medicate” away (not for lack of trying!) It’s an “everyday” illness for most people and having the support of loved ones makes a huge difference.
Its a real problem for so many people and very difficult for friends and loved ones to understand.
Depression does hurt, and not just the person who is depressed. A couple people who I am very close to suffer from depression, and some days, I don’t know who it is harder for – them, or the people who love them. But everyone deals with it differently.
I completely agree. And as a freind/family member of someone who suffers it almost feels like we are helpless.
That was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you!
I just lost a friend to depression 2 weeks ago. She had a loving husband and two silly and fun kids. It’s hard on everyone! But you’re right, you just have to keep with them doing what you can to let them know they matter.
Super sad. As always, there is only so much we can do but being there for them is sometimes the only gift we can give.
Love this. I suffered from depression and anxiety for many years. Exercise has played a major role in keeping me sane and stable without medication. This is a great post with great info! Thanks for writing it!
I’m thankful this isn’t one of my problems (currently) but I do start feeling the weight of the world pressing on me when I’m not able to get up and out for runs/workouts.
Unfortunately my down-in-the-dumps attitude is because I can’t exercise. I’m waiting to get in for an MRI on my hip. Things have gotten better over the past month but I still can’t run. Heck I can’t put on socks without sitting down. And I’m missing out on my marathon Saturday. Argh!
This summer was very hard for me too as I was rehabbing my torn ligament in my foot. I was active but it wasn’t the same so I absolutely understand. I can’t run the Chicago Marathon on 10/7 either, plus missed the majority of my season. Oh well, always next year right? And we will be stronger and better for it in the long run. Keep your chin up and know that your situation is only temporary. 🙂 Good luck! Hopefully the MRI will give you some direction.
Pingback: The Waiting Game …. Cuz I Can’t Fix This | TooTallFritz