You probably have a friend, or maybe you are THE friend who has self-esteem issues. Confidence just isn’t their thing. They are tentative about life, question their actions OR inactions and are just always unsure if they are good enough. I am here to tell you that they are good enough, just the way they are, uncertainties and all! As adults, life isn’t easy for most of us and coping is difficult. You have no idea what has happened to them in the past or is happening to them now to make them feel insecure. Avoid judgment.
It is difficult for those of us with an abundance of confidence to understand some insecurities but that really isn’t our place. Our place is to reassure, try to help them shine and actually give a crap care about their feelings. Let them know that NO MATTER WHAT……. they are:
to tackle anything they do so desire. This is part of your responsiblity to humankind. Help people step up, don’t knock them down to try to better yourself or feel better about yourself because it just doesn’t work like that. Karma will bite you in the ass for all of those little “nasties” which you think that nobody knows about. Karma knows. God knows. Do the right thing. Help somebody up rather than pushing them down. Avoid pettiness and selfishness and you will be better for it in the end.
Go now and tell somebody, or look in the mirror and tell yourself, that they/you are Strong Enough and Good Enough just the way they/you are today, now, right here in this moment. Nobody is perfect but own the fact that you are enough.
Time…..that is the issue. Each of us struggles with the time management issue on a daily basis. What do you have time for in your life? Or more importantly, let’s just be honest, what do you MAKE time for in your life?
No time for workouts? No time for reading? No time to take care of yourself? No time to cook healthy for your family? No time to blog? No time to keep up on Facebook? No time to clean your house? No time to play with your kids? No time to sit and smell the roses? Well, what DID you have time to do today?
I think moderation is key but I must admit that I try to fit in as much as I can each and everyday. I don’t have time for everything, and I screw mess things up a lot, but I do what I can. I feel as if each day I am living on borrowed time. The clock is ticking. Time is running out.
Please forgive me if I sometimes seem distracted. Please forgive me if I appear to be rushing. Please forgive me if I am tired because I was working, or cuddling my baby, while you were sleeping. Some days there are things I must do, things which may not be important to you but matter to me. I strongly urge you to think for a minute and figure out what you must to do today? What needs to be done tomorrow? Please figure out what is really important. I guarantee that if it is REALLY important, then you will make the time. No more excuses. No more “next year”. Make It Happen. For you. For your family. For your life. There is always someone willing to help you get where you are going. It’s okay to be unsure, or not fully understand the where/why/how, just know that somebody will be there to carry you when you need it. Now make some time for yourself. Get your shit together. Get healthy, or stick to your current routine to stay healthy, so that you can be there to carry somebody else when they need you. If you are bored and tired of what you are doing, stop bitching change it and make time to make a difference.